Category: Beauty

April 30th, 2013

Hello Readers!!!

Today’s thought comes from the motivational video from yesterday. At the end of the video a statement is made.

Make a choice. Just decide what is going to be, who you are going to be, how you are going to do it. Just DECIDE. 

The more important thing is this. To be able at any moment to sacrifice what you are for what you will become. 

Every day that passes by I grow a bit more, not only physically, but point of view as well. As I continue to develop my weight loss program I have come to the conclusion that I do not believe in giving in. I do not believe in treats, I do not believe in cheat meals, I do not believe we deserve M&Ms once in awhile, I do not believe in being nice towards food.

I want to be a powerful, thin/toned, healthy, beautiful woman and I am willing to sacrifice what little cravings and weaknesses I currently have in order to become my dream. Therefore, this is exactly the kind of women I want to help transform other women into. I am so sick and tired seeing how we women can be so independent and hard working in most parts of their lives yet we come across a piece of chocolate and become little weaklings. We give up all our ideals, we give up all the hard work we have put in the gym, we give up the commitments we made to ourselves and others, we fall to our knees to bow down to that piece of food.


What’s worse is that we excuse it over and over again. We give ourselves a thousand and one reasons why we need or deserve that harmful food and seem to completely forget all the reasons why we don’t want to eat it. All those reasons don’t come flowing in until the cake is gone. Then we begin feeling guilty and put ourselves down for failing. For eating something we knew we shouldn’t or worse we actually feel it was ok to eat what we did. So the next time there is another slice of cake it becomes so much easier to say yes to it. Until we are back to square one, saying yes to all the crappy food out there because we have lost sight of our dreams and goals.

The reality of it is that at some point, of resisting eating sweets and breads, you no longer miss them. You only crave them when you are feeling negatively which then triggers you to deal with your emotions instead of eating them. It takes a lot of time to build that habit, but it really does happen. You just have to be ready to sacrifice what you are now, for what you want to become. Personally for me, I hated who I was and was more than happy to sacrifice her in exchange for who I am now. Even now I continue to sacrifice parts of me to maintain who I am and who I will continue to develop to become.


It is all a choice and you have to decide whether you are ready to sacrifice what you are now for who you desire to become. If you are not ready to sacrifice it, if you are not ready to give up your favorite dessert, if you are not ready to give up your favorite fried food, if you are not ready to give up all unhealthy foods, then you are just wasting time and energy. Might as well give up now and live the life you have so far created because you will never reach the life you dream and desire.


Dreams and desires are not given, they are taken. It reminds me of the Aztecs sacrifices. You need to be ready to sacrifice everything in order to get to the heart and offer it to the gods. In order to offer it to yourself. Your heart is where your dreams live, so are you ready to sacrifice everything else in order to save your beating heart?

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Tuesday, April 9th, 2013

“Give up defining yourself – to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it’s their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don’t be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.” 

Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose


Throughout this transformation of mine I have come to terms that I no longer define myself by what I used to define myself. I just do and am who I want to be. I do what makes me happy, most of the time. I am learning to say no to people when I do get trapped being something I am not.

Living to someone else's definitions.

Living to someone else’s definitions.

One of things I still struggle with is with the fact that it concerns me greatly how others define me. What others might think of me, their thoughts about how I am dressed, how my make up is, my hair, my heels, my driving, my breathing, my walking, my sitting, ANYTHING. I mean I used to be so concerned that I would get so nervous when I would be driving and had to slow down in order to make a turn. Then that nervousness would increase ten-fold when there were cars coming from the other side; which meant I had to wait for them and therefore make the people behind me wait as well. It was nerve wrecking. I was just so overwhelmingly concerned about what they might be thinking of me. THEY of ME. Complete strangers who have no idea what I look like or who I am. They just knew I drove a black car and was making a turn and therefore had to wait for like a minute.That is how concerned I used to be. Always wanting to be defined as a pleasing person, to ALL.

Through this physical change I have come to the realization that my definition of who I am is not based off other people. I can not concern myself with pleasing others and at the same time living the life I want. One of the biggest changes I have made is the way I dress. Now I am able to wear dresses and skirts, short dresses/skirts to be exact. When I was overweight I did not wear any dresses. Just jeans. Only jeans.  I have always desired to wear short dresses and skirts, but wouldn’t before. I used to envy the women that could. Giving them that look, that eye look, that is so noticeable you are noticing their dress length.

Having a little fun with Mr. Mural

Having a little fun with Mr. Mural

As I lost the weight I realized I could now dress the way I have always wanted. So I did and it felt so uncomfortable. Not only because I was not used having my legs so exposed, but also because I was very concerned what other women would be thinking. Would they think it was too short?

I get plenty of looks by women, but I have given up concerning myself about them. I am done caring what they think or how they are defining me in their thoughts. Let them. I am happy dressing the way I am. I am happy showing off the hard work I have put in the gym. Showing how my eating habits have changed me. I am not sorry their husband or boyfriend is checking me out. I have no control over him. I am not sorry I have made them feel envious about something they too can have if they put some work into. I have no control over them either. All I have is me. Who I am. What makes me happy in the NOW. In the now it makes me happy to be noticed and admired. I stood in the shadows for too long. It is time for me to shine brightly.

Me being smexsy

Me being smexsy

The funny thing?  Women can shine as bright if they stop defining themselves by others standards and really accept what will make them happy. Many overweight women claim to be happy being a full body girl and living that life. It is not true, but they will not accept that because then that will define them as someone who is not happy with the way they look. Goodness forbid you are not happy with who you are because then you are not a self empowered woman. Then you have low self-confidence and then there is definitely something wrong with you! So instead keep pretending to love being fat and living that life so at least society thinks you are happy. Even though at night you cry yourself to sleep because you gained another five pounds and there is only one clothing store you can really shop from. This is reality. I lived this life, as do many other women. There is a very small handful of women who are truly happy being overweight.

When you judge another you do not define them you define yourself

So dollies…take a moment to step back and see where your life is. Is it really who you are or who you are letting people define. It is hard to really separate the both, but it is a must. We are not immortals and if we are lucky we will die in 50-70 years. Do not waste the time given living up to other peoples’s standards. Do what makes you happy. Be what makes you happy. LIVE doing what makes you happy.



Be a little dark tonight. ;)

Saturday March 2nd, 2013

Hello beauties out there.,

I hope you are having a joyful Saturday. If you are not, then make it! You only get this Saturday. This Saturday won’t repeat itself. Only ONE March 2nd 2013. On that note, get all prettied up/handsomed up and hit the town. With your friends or on your own. The own part might be a little intimidating, but once you do it a couple of times it gets easier. Trust me I know!

Try this look for your evening out. If it comes out awesome then head on out to a movie or a drink. If not, well then, call it a movie night in and try again! LIVE YOUR LIFE, don’t just exist.

I love the long hair. I can not wait to have it long again. :D

I love the long hair. I can not wait to have it long again. 😀

This was my first time trying to do the smokey eye look, with blacks and a very dark grayish blue. I really like this look. I got rather comfortable with it at one point and was all I wore. Do not make that mistake. Plenty of colorful ways to stand out. And to any ladies out there trying to catch the eye of men. Color is the way to go. Men are attracted to sexy color. A red heel vs. a black heel. A colorful eyeshadow vs. a neutral. All of course with keeping in mind your outfit and all that good stuff.

I also did a bit of the black greyish blue on the bottom lid.

I also did a bit of the black greyish blue on the bottom lid. Not a lot though! 

Yet, the smokey look is still a look that is good to wear once in awhile. I haven’t worn it in awhile. Perhaps I will try it this Friday. 🙂

Now…I created this look a long time ago. I think this is what I did…….I started with a black eyeliner pencil and colored in the bottom lid, topping it off with a black eyeshadow, blending out. On the crease I used a beautiful dark grayish blue. I just love how it looks and blends. It is awesome. With the smokey look it is important that you blend the colors well. Most of my time spent during this creation was just blending the colors to each other and then with the crease blending it out. Without focusing blending it might look too dark and will result in the dreaded raccoon eye look.

muuuaaaaaah *kisses*

muuuaaaaaah *kisses*

The rest of the face I tried to stay very nudeish, but I love lip color, so I added a bit of pink on the lips. People recommend not making the lips so dramatic since your eyes are already the center of attention. I have worn a bright red lip before with this look and I was happy with it. It is all up to you 🙂

Alrighty pretties. Have a very fun Saturday, at home or out.



A play with turquoise

February 22nd, 2013

Happy Friday to all my pretties out there.

One of the things that I love about make-up is that it is colorful. I honestly do not like just sticking to neutrals, browns, and light pinks. I love COLOR. I love that it is unique. Not many women are comfortable wearing vibrant colors.

I remember when I had my 15th birthday, my make-up was done rather vibrantly. Well at least for me at that time. I honestly felt like a clown. So if you are beginning your make-up journey I do recommend starting with the neutrals and low key colors until you get used to having color on your face.

The deep purple is great here because it does help tone down the turquoise just a little bit.

The deep purple is great here because it does help tone down the turquoise just a little bit.

I began right away with vibrant colors when I began my journey into the make-up world. I just loved it. I felt a little weird and was nervous that I was going to LOOK weird, but people began commenting positively on it.

One of my favorite tones is turquoise. I just LOVE the vibrancy it brings and how it attracts attention. Shades of blue are not common colors used. So it is great to be able to manipulate them and wear them.

I really do enjoy the pinks and reds on the lips. I really have never had a desire to "tone" things down. lol

I really do enjoy the pinks and reds on the lips. I really have never had a desire to “tone” things down. lol

In this look I used turquoise as my base and a deep purple for the crease in order to create depth in the look. I can’t remember what I used for the highlighter, but something a little lighter than your natural skin tone works best. I also have a whiteish/shiny eye shadow in the inner eyelid in order to just make it pop. Of course always with a bit of mascara and eyeliner.

Tip of the Day: The first skill you must really acquire is blending. Just like any other skill it takes practice. A lot of practice, but once you have acquired the blending skill ANYTHING is possible.

Try to be a little bold this weekend dollies and add a bit more color to your world. I think you will like it. Have an exciting weekend.





Green, Pink, and the start

Saturday February 9th, 2013

Good Morning Beautiful Dollies,

Well as you all kinda know….well I hope you know. I love BEAUTY and I love what make-up can do to not only bring out your BEAUTY, but make it shine! So I wanted to start posting just pics of me trying on different make-up looks. These will be very short entries, but I really would like to show you all that putting on make-up is not a gift some people are born with. Yes, some do have a natural tendency to be very creative and with little work be able to create extraordinary pieces of art with make-up. Yet, for most of us we work hard at it.

I watched many youtube videos. I would try make-up when I would just have some free time to do it. Yes, you have to make time and you have to put in effort, but all of you can learn how to make up your face and make it super special.

This one was one of my first attempts at make-up. I had seen the ad for the Barbie look and wanted to try it out. Didn’t come out exactly the same, but its alright. I might try it again!




These pictures are a bit after I began loosing weight. You can definitely see a difference. I didn’t back then 😛

Well my blending is not THAT bad. lol


Giving up the peace sign. Very Koreanish. I was in South Korea here. 🙂


This was the look I was going for….its KINDA there. lol



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